How to Forgive and Move on After an Affair
posted by: Rowena
Just barely thinking that someone betrayed you is something you wouldn’t want to happen in your life but this is one of things we cannot control. Forgiveness most of the time is a difficult thing to do especially when you were truly hurt by someone you have given your trust, love and most especially your life. Someone you have foreseen yourself to be with for the rest of your life. Someone you made a promise to build a happy and complete family. But letting go means giving yourself the chance to be happy again. You would have the opportunity to enjoy life one more time. So the time you see him again, you won’t feel bitter and hurt anymore but instead you would stand up so proud that you were able to overcome such challenging situation.
Why let yourself suffer for the rest of your life when you can be happy. Move on and let the world know that you are tough enough to get over such struggle. You deserve to be happy and so take these following tips on how to forgive and move on after an affair.
1. Time. You need time so you can truly say you have moved on. You can’t forgive someone that easy. It takes time before you can finally say you have moved on. In every betrayal, you really need time to process everything to your inner self so you could bring back or retrieve the things you lost.
2. Make yourself busy. This is one way not to think about what happened so often. But never overuse your strength, never abuse your health. You have to be strong in times like this so you won’t lose over the situation. Never let your problem destroy you.
3. Go somewhere where you can find peace. Allow yourself to process the pain. It is fine to cry. This is a good outlet for you. You can also join retreat in churches or in the community or a group of people who are under the same situation as you.
4. Ask for assistance. If the pain is killing you much and you can’t think of any other way to move on, it helps if you ask the assistance of counsellors so you could have an outlet, you could say everything that you are carrying.
5. Never pity yourself. Never feel you are less attractive, less intelligent, less caring. It wasn’t your fault, it was their choice and they are responsible for their own actions.
6. Take care of yourself. Love yourself more. Do things that make you happy. Look beautiful. Eat healthy. If you do this you will eventually go over that pain.
7. Pray and ensure a positive view about life. It pays a lot to pray and bring all your worries to God. There’s no one who could help you other than yourself. Have a better transformation of yourself so you could see the world in a better perspective.
I hope you learn from the tips on how to forgive and move on after an affair. Forgive and get over. Forget but learn. Allow yourself to be happy again. And when you can truly say that you have moved on, there you are ready for a better relationship ahead. You may have failed once but there’s always a second chance.
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